Dear friends...we are at a point in our parental journey that has brought us to a stand still and I'm here to share with you a tough decision that Wins and I have had to make. I have to get this off my chest because I'm having some guilt issues about what we are about to do.
Here it goes....we have decided to do "sleep training" or in other words "the cry it out method"- shudder, wince, sob!
It has just come to a point where I am beginning to resent Noah's multiple wake ups throughout the night. And when I say multiple I mean anywhere from 3 to 6 wake ups a night! To put it into perspective, that means that for the last 7 months I have not had a single nights sleep. And the fact is, is that he is not waking up because he is hungry. It's because we have allowed a bad habit to turn into a cycle, where Noah's sleep schedule is all thrown off. This results in a babe who sleeps a lot in the day and not so much throughout the night.
If you aren't familiar with sleep training you can read about it here. But you probably get the idea just from reading "cry it out" that the parent must leave the child to deal with the night waking on their own, meaning not picking your child up when they are crying, rocking them or feeding them in any kind of way. The idea is that you train your child to soothe themselves back to sleep, and ultimately training your child to have a full nights sleep. And this is where the terrible guilt comes in. For months I have been soothing my child when he needs me, tending to his cries and wanting him to know that mama will always be there for him....now I'm expected to abandon him when he calls out for me?
I realize that I am not alone in this guilt. I have talked about this method with many parents and have also done my research. And as much as I hate the idea of letting Noah cry himself to sleep I can't bear the alternative....a babe who continues to have bad sleeping habits, a babe who grows into a toddler who can't sleep.
So I'm asking you to think of us as we spend the next week or so dealing with some difficult nights. Here's hoping that we have some success.